Masturbation gives women the
opportunity to explore their
body while at the same time
giving them a high degree of
Healthual freedom. It allows
women the opportunity to
experience Healthual pleasure
without relying on a
partner, and to release
Healthual tension when they
feel the need to.
Masturbation can be very
empowering teaching tool for
women, it teaches them about
their bodies, and how it
responds to Healthual
stimulation. Many normal and
healthy women only
experience orgasm while
masturbating, or it is their
most intense type of orgasm.
Masturbation is the first
and most important Healthual
skill a woman should learn,
as it holds the key to
enjoying other forms of
Healthual activity. Ideally,
this skill is learned prior
to the age of five, but far
too often it is not learned
until a women is in her late
teens or early twenties.
This stems from the
incorrect notion that
children are entirely devoid
of Healthuality and they are to
be protected from the
'evils' of Healthuality.
Children, especially
infants, are incredibly
curious individuals who will
undoubtedly discover
masturbation on their own. A
parent, if they catch their
child masturbating, should
not chastise their child for
it, but rather, tell them
about private and public
actions.
In spite of the Healthual
revolution, female
masturbation is still
somewhat taboo. Even though
popular songs, movies, and
television shows make
mention of female
masturbation, or the use of
vibrators or dildos, it is
not a common topic of
discussion. Men and women
are more likely to make
mention of boys and men
masturbating than girls and
women. It is given that men
and boys masturbate, but for
girls and women, even though
it is commonly accepted that
it is okay for them to do
it, they are not expected
to. If a woman does not know
that her peers masturbate
and that they presume that
she does, she is less likely
to do it, or if she does,
she feels guilty for doing
it. Even if it is acceptable
to do something, people are
less likely to do it if they
do not know that their peers
do it. Since women do not
generally talk about it, it
is presumed that they do not
masturbate.
A common misconception of
women is that because they
have a partner, they do not
feel they should have to; or
if they are single,
masturbating would
substantiate their single
status. If they were not
single, they would not have
to masturbate. So instead of
masturbating, they go in
search of a partner. Which
is not the solution and
typically results in
unfulfilled desires.
Since masturbation is seen
as a "solo" activity, some
women with partners do not
feel it is appropriate for
them to masturbate. If you
have a partner, it is
believed that your Healthual
activities with them should
fulfill all your Healthual
needs. While a nice ideal,
in real life, a lot of
women's Healthual needs are not
met fully by their partner,
no matter how good and
loving a partner they have.
For women with partners, it
is important that they
understand that it is
perfectly healthy and normal
for them to masturbate, and
they should do so without
feeling guilty. For many, if
not most women, the
frequency at which they
masturbate should not change
when they go from being
single to having a Healthual
partner. Some women find
they masturbate more when
they have a partner, as
having a partner makes them
feel more Healthual, and
increases their desire for
Health and Healthual pleasure.
There are times in all
relationships when your
partner is not available for
Health when you desire it, even
when they sleep beside you.
Couples frequently have
different levels of Health
drive, and expectations
regarding physical intimacy.
This is why women frequently
masturbate secretively in
the shower, or masturbate
silently in the early
morning hours while their
sleeping partner lies beside
them. Masturbating when you
have a partner is normal and
a woman should not feel
ashamed for doing so, most
women have probably done it
at some point in their
relationship. It is often a
necessity. Forgoing
masturbation and Healthual
pleasure because you have a
partner does harm to you and
your relationship because
you will slowly begin to
blame them for your Healthual
frustration. As your Healthual
frustration grows, so does
your frustration with the
relationship.
While it is extremely
untrue, the majority of
people believe that women
are less Healthual than men. We
are led to believe that
women think about Health and
desire Health much less.
Society creates outcasts of
women who are openly Healthual.
This results in women
believing they should not
have strong Healthual feelings
and desires. Unfortunately,
many women are ashamed to
admit they become horny.
This results in women
introverting and denying
their own Healthual feelings
and desires. While a woman's
desire for Health may change
with time as the result of
hormonal influences, they
are just as Healthual as men.
If a woman accepts that she
is equally as Healthual as a
man, she is more likely to
feel comfortable with her
desire to masturbate.
The main reason a woman
should masturbate is because
it feels good. Women with
strong Health drives may
masturbate frequently, but
they do so because it feels
good, not because they are
driven to. If it did not
feel good, it is not likely
that they would, no matter
how aroused they were. A
woman should not forgo
masturbating just because
she does not have a strong
Health drive. Even if you have
no desire for partner Health,
you should still enjoy
giving yourself pleasure.
The fact that preadolescent
girls masturbate proves that
hormonally induced Health
drives are not the only
reason to masturbate. Young
girls do it for no other
reason than it feels good.
Since it does feel good,
there is no reason to expect
women not to. There is
nothing wrong with a woman
giving herself pleasure on a
daily basis, or less often
if she so desires. For
masturbation to be
pleasurable, it does not
have to end in orgasm.
Masturbation may involve
nothing more than placing
your hands against your
vulva when you go to sleep
at night, because it feels
good.
I do not want people to get
the impression based on the
above statements that all
women have negative views of
masturbation, or that all
women need to masturbate.
Women are increasingly
developing very positive
attitudes towards
masturbation and the
pleasure it can bring them.
If given the opportunity,
women will often discuss
their masturbation habits
with pride, without the
least amount of guilt.
Basic
Masturbation
Techniques
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Women and girls masturbate
in an endless list of ways.
Common methods are,
massaging of the clitoris
with hands and fingers,
rubbing the vulva up against
pillows, bed cloths, stuffed
animals, and furniture, etc.
The vagina appears to play a
limited role in the
masturbation practices of
women, but vaginal
penetration during
masturbation is by no means
unusual or uncommon. Some
women employ Health and/or
nipple stimulation in
addition to clitoral and
vaginal stimulation.
It is important to
understand that there is no
"correct" or "right" way to
masturbate. Some women feel
they should be able to
masturbate to orgasm using a
different or more correct
method because they hear
other women do it that way.
It is important to keep in
mind that each woman's
anatomy is slightly
different and her
psychological makeup is
quite different. This
results in every woman
masturbating differently,
even if they use the same
basic technique. While some
women can masturbate to
orgasm employing several
different techniques, others
find they can reach orgasm
only when they use the same
method each time. There is
nothing wrong with this. Due
to conditioning and the
differences in women's
bodies, learning new
techniques for some can be
difficult or even
impossible. If you are
orgasmic with your current
masturbation technique, feel
free to experiment, but do
not feel you have to reach
orgasm in other ways.
Remember, masturbation is
supposed to be fun and
enjoyable, no matter how you
do it.
The
Beginner
When you have relaxed your
body, lie on a bed, or sit
in a comfortable chair, and
explore your nude or
semi-nude body. Run your
fingers and hands across
your body. Explore your
breasts and play with your
nipples. Caress your legs
and thighs. Cup your vulva
in your hand and gently rub
in small circles. Stimulate
your body, but do not try to
reach orgasm. Make yourself
feel good. If you feel
yourself get tense, stop
what you are doing, breath
deeply, and relax. Do this
exercise as often as
possible, but for no longer
than 20 minutes per session.
Do not tire or stress
yourself out. The point of
this exercise is to make you
feel good while staying
relaxed, not to have an
orgasm. You want to feel a
little aroused, but at
peace, not compelled to go
further.
After you become comfortable
exploring and touching your
body you will want to try
more direct means of
stimulating your vulva. Slip
your fingers between the
folds of your vulva and
massage and play with your
inner labia, perhaps pulling
on them lightly or firmly.
Slip your fingers up to the
top of your vulva and place
them on top of your
clitoris. Gently move your
fingers up and down, around,
and perhaps even wildly
jiggle them. Make the loose
tissue covering your
clitoris slide across the
body and glans of your
clitoris. If you feel a need
to be filled, insert a
finger or two into your
vagina. You want to make
yourself feel really good,
but you do not want to
intentionally try to have an
orgasm. If an orgasm occurs,
you want it to be a total
surprise. If you are
thinking about having an
orgasm, you need to slow
down, relax, and redirect
your thoughts. You do not
want your brain to know you
are about to have an orgasm.
You probably will not
experience orgasm the very
first or first few times so
do not try to. Just enjoy
the pleasures of touching
yourself. If you get to a
point where you suddenly
find your body is super
tense, you are trying too
hard. Try to enjoy yourself,
not orgasm. You want to
surprise yourself with an
orgasm. If you feel yourself
on the verge of orgasm, but
cannot, you are probably
trying too hard; you cannot
force your body to have an
orgasm. The more you
concentrate on trying to
have an orgasm, the less
likely you are to have one.
Clitoral
Stimulation
Using your hands and
fingers, stimulate (rub,
stroke, pinch, etc) the
clitoris with one or more
fingers or the palm of your
hand. Some find direct
contact with the clitoris
too intense, and prefer
stimulation near or around
the clitoris. Others prefer
to have a layer of clothing
or some other fabric between
the hand and clit. Try it
both ways and see what works
best for you.
G-Spot
Stimulation
Inserting a vibrator or
dildo into the vagina can
help locate and stimulate
your G-Spot and offers a
feeling of fullness in the
vagina. You can locate your
G-spot with your fingers,
but it's difficult to
provide adequate stimulation
through manual masturbation.
Women who enjoy stimulation
of the G-spot usually employ
Healthual toys to make it
easier and more enjoyable.
Vibrators
Vibrators are used primarily
for clitoral stimulation,
though many women also use
them for vaginal or Health
stimulation. They also may
be combined with other toys
and used in any number of
positions. A good, discrete
alternative to a vibrator
for clitoral or Health
stimulation is a massage
wand. However, massage wands
cannot be used for vaginal
or Health penetration.
Common,
Everyday Objects
Rub your clitoris against
any soft, non-abrasive
object (e.g., a pillow, the
corner of a couch, etc.) and
see if you enjoy the
stimulation it provides.
Showers
A detachable showerhead can
be quite scintillating for
just about any woman. The
best shower available is the
ones with the versatile
control that switches the
water from a steady stream
to a pulsating jet spray. In
hot tubs, avoid sending
strong streams of water into
the vagina; this can cause
fatal air embolism.
Health
Stimulation
The anus is quite sensitive
to touch and many women
enjoy stimulation of this
area during masturbation or
partner Health play. You can
experiment on this highly
erogenous area with your
fingers or Health toys such as
Health beads and Health dildos
(better known as butt
plugs).
In closing, there is no
right way to masturbate and
there is no specific number
of times you should do it
per week. As long as you
feel comfortable with the
frequency at which you
masturbate and the pleasure
it provides you, then keep
on doing it. Masturbation is
normal and should be
pleasurable, so find out
what you like the best and
then show your partner, when
you find one, how they can
please you properly.
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